THOUSANDS OF BOOKS, ARTICLES AND OTHER forms of instructional media are available to guide the new father on the path of fatherhood. Many provide conflicting advice whilst promising outstanding results. The new father is faced with the decision as to the advice he will follow realising that he has only one shot at this project. There is no second chance to raise a child.
Where do you begin? God did not leave you in the dark as to how to raise your children. He provided a comprehensive manual describing in detail, how to nurture, develop and raise your children. Your children will need to grow, physically, mentally and emotionally to be all that God destined them to be.
As a dad, you have the awesome privilege and responsibility of overseeing this process. Your responsibility is to ensure your children are raised being certain of having the ability, judgement and resources that they need to succeed. You want the very best for your children. You have great plans for their future and plans for their success. Will this result in them growing up to be the confident, well adjusted individuals that God intended for them to be? Do you need some help in raising confident kids? Let’s get to work then, there is no time to lose!
Realise that your children are individuals
Children are different, it is God’s idea. Observe families and you will be amazed how children born into the same family can be so different in nature, temperament and appearance. This is quite normal. Let’s check the manual and make sure we are still on track here. Psalm 139:14-16 reassures us that this is no factory defect but rather it is part of the master plan. “I praise you because of the wonderful way you created me. Everything you do is marvellous! Of this I have no doubt. Nothing about me is hidden from you! I was secretly woven together deep in the earth below, but with your own eyes you saw my body being formed. Even before I was born, you had written in your book everything I would do.” Remember, God never says “Oops”.
Give your children assurance and affirmation
Speak positive words over your children.
Be on the lookout daily for reasons to praise them.
Never open your mouth without engaging your brain. Think before you speak.
Realise that your every word has a permanent impact on their lives.
They want your approval and encouragement.
Make time to be their best friend
Here is a vital component of your role as father. In the busyness of life, you may be tempted to take short cuts when it comes to spending time with your child. They look to you as a mentor, a confidant and a friend. If you are not there for them, they will find a substitute and this is usually where things go wrong. A myriad diversions are waiting to take your place as their friend. Drugs, alcohol and inappropriate relationships are just a few of the alternatives to your friendship. Take heart, they all come a distant second to you and if you make the time you will discover that the results are well worth the effort.
Well, isn’t it time for you to take the controls now? You can make a difference in your child’s life today, and remember if you forget something, it is all in the “Manual”!
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