Lately I have come to see the difference between making a life and making a living.
In our world today we fall into rush hour traffic in business and become conformed in
the world’s ways. When greed overtakes need, we become slaves to the society we live in.
We can seek brand names and forfeit our title as children of God. Our motives for working
can be geared towards building a name for ourselves instead of building up God’s Kingdom,
if we seek to receive instead of seeking to give. The difference between making a
living and making a life can be seen in the story of Martha and Mary. Do we grumble
at our workload because we are not appreciated or noticed, or do we give
of ourselves completely to God and do all we do for Him with a willingness to
serve Him in others? If we try and make a living for ourselves and our needs, we can at times
fail to surrender our inabilities to please others, and fall prey to bitterness when our needs
are not met by others. It is better to make a life i.e. to seek God in all our situations, and do
all we do for Him (even when we serve others), so that we are guaranteed to be fully satisfied
in His acceptance and love for us. Once we have achieved this ‘New Life’, we can strive
to give more of ourselves, our time and our talents willingly in servanthood to others in a
good attitude, (seeking to serve instead of being served). Making a life is seeking to serve God,
being Jesus to others and seeking Jesus in others. Making a living is seeking to serve self,
seeing what we can get out of life instead of seeing what we can give to life – to God.
EnJOY life to truly live.
18 August 2009
Successful Single Parenting
When raising your children is your responsibility, and yours alone, the difficulties and struggles may seem overwhelming. Widows and widowers suddenly find themselves being mothers and fathers through no choice of their own. They never dreamed it would happen to them. They must care for their children while still grieving the loss of a mate who can't return to help them.
Other men and women become single parents when their partner leaves and refuses to share the responsibility for their children. They are left feeling abandoned and heartbroken. There is also perhaps the saddest group of single parents - those who live across town from former spouses who have been abusive or are heavy users of drugs or alcohol.
There is hope, however. God is a Father to the fatherless and a husband to the husbandless. Men, the Word of God promises that He will be your sufficiency and your portion. You have not been abandoned either. Even although the Lord is there for us and we have the support of our friends and family, there will always be obstacles that need to be overcome as a single parent. Being aware of these and learning the skills to overcome them, will make the journey as a single parent not only easier, but even enjoyable.
Emotional baggage
There are few tasks that require more courage and strength than single parenting. It's not just a matter of responsibility. Challenging tasks become far more difficult when we are weighed down by heavy emotional baggage. This added weight can prevent you from being an effective parent because all of your energy is being consumed by your past struggles. Some ‘baggage items’ that might be weighing you down are: self-pity, depression, guilt, fear, economic devastation, anger, envy, exhaustion, loneliness and frustration.
Most single parents are afflicted with many, or most, of these problems. There are unfortunately no shortcuts to overcoming such painful obstacles. Each area must be encountered, explored and left behind. You no doubt want to raise healthy, well-adjusted children but this can only be done when you are able to focus on them and not yourself. Your children are the most precious gifts God has given you and they need you now more than ever before. By dealing with your baggage and reaching out to them, your own healing will be speeded up. Surround yourself with friends you can talk to, make sure you are eating healthily and exercising regularly, study God's Word regularly and don't stop going to church. Seek help in the areas where you are struggling, spend time with a counsellor you trust. It is crucial that you deal with your emotional pain so that you can be there for your children when they need you.
1. Never demean your partner in front of the children. Try to say positive things about their other parent because your child loves and cares for them very much, even although that parent may have hurt you. Children are often torn between their parents and don't say how they really feel for fear of hurting one or the other.
2. Let your children know where they can reach you and the other parent (if possible) at all times.
3. Allow your ex-partner to call your children often and don't complain when it is time for them to visit their other parent. This only makes children feel guilty for wanting to spend time with their mom or dad.
4. Don't give in to the temptation to avoid discipline. It is natural to think that your children won't want to be with you if you correct them for doing something wrong. But nothing could be further from the truth. They won't respect you if you don't discipline them.
5. Never use your children as a ‘news-service’ to find out what the ex-spouse is doing. Your children are not spies and should never be treated as such.
6. Try and keep the same rules in the two households, where possible. Bed times and other restrictions should be the same. Maintaining consistency helps children deal with the change much easier.
The first thing you need to remember is that you simply cannot do everything well. If you try, you will spread yourself so thin that even the things you're best at will have mediocre results. Do the best you can and don't worry about not being perfect.
Secondly, look for substitutes who will handle tasks that your partner used to perform - employ a gardener or a cook for instance. Don't try to do everything yourself.
Never enough by the end of the month
As a single-parent family you cannot maintain the same standard of living you once enjoyed as a complete family. You need to remember this from the outset. Although it will take some adjustment, you must fight the urge to make more debt to simply keep up your past lifestyle. Do not be manipulated by your children or feel guilty if they can't have everything that they used to. Buying them ‘stuff’ is not going to make them feel any better about the loss of their parent.
No-one knows your situation better than God. If you are faithful with your money, He will provide for you. Single-parent mothers are particularly vulnerable to the threat that they are not going to make it financially. It is very easy when you are stuck on the side of the road with a flat tyre, to think that having a man in your life again would make everything easier. The truth is that at this critical time in your life the One you should be depending on is the Lord.
Don't try and work out your problems with your own schemes and solutions. Pray about every unique situation and ask for God's wisdom with your finances. It won't be easy, but putting God first and spending wisely will ensure your financial success in the future.
All is not lost
Good parenting makes all the difference in the world. The adjusted children of responsible single parents are proving to do very well, and don't let anyone tell you differently. Just take it one day and one step at a time.
I leave you with the final words of Gary Richmond:
"Although you may ask all the right questions and memorise all the right answers, there is no magic formula for successful single parenting. And most assuredly, nothing can really help you deal with single parenthood's demands, hurts, obstacles and challenges unless you choose to be obedient to God's Word.
With all my heart, I appeal to you to wholeheartedly commit your past, your present and your future to the nail-scarred hands of the One who created you, died for you and lives to intercede for you. Without Him, you can do nothing. With Him all things are possible!"
Other men and women become single parents when their partner leaves and refuses to share the responsibility for their children. They are left feeling abandoned and heartbroken. There is also perhaps the saddest group of single parents - those who live across town from former spouses who have been abusive or are heavy users of drugs or alcohol.
There is hope, however. God is a Father to the fatherless and a husband to the husbandless. Men, the Word of God promises that He will be your sufficiency and your portion. You have not been abandoned either. Even although the Lord is there for us and we have the support of our friends and family, there will always be obstacles that need to be overcome as a single parent. Being aware of these and learning the skills to overcome them, will make the journey as a single parent not only easier, but even enjoyable.
Emotional baggage
There are few tasks that require more courage and strength than single parenting. It's not just a matter of responsibility. Challenging tasks become far more difficult when we are weighed down by heavy emotional baggage. This added weight can prevent you from being an effective parent because all of your energy is being consumed by your past struggles. Some ‘baggage items’ that might be weighing you down are: self-pity, depression, guilt, fear, economic devastation, anger, envy, exhaustion, loneliness and frustration.
Most single parents are afflicted with many, or most, of these problems. There are unfortunately no shortcuts to overcoming such painful obstacles. Each area must be encountered, explored and left behind. You no doubt want to raise healthy, well-adjusted children but this can only be done when you are able to focus on them and not yourself. Your children are the most precious gifts God has given you and they need you now more than ever before. By dealing with your baggage and reaching out to them, your own healing will be speeded up. Surround yourself with friends you can talk to, make sure you are eating healthily and exercising regularly, study God's Word regularly and don't stop going to church. Seek help in the areas where you are struggling, spend time with a counsellor you trust. It is crucial that you deal with your emotional pain so that you can be there for your children when they need you.
1. Never demean your partner in front of the children. Try to say positive things about their other parent because your child loves and cares for them very much, even although that parent may have hurt you. Children are often torn between their parents and don't say how they really feel for fear of hurting one or the other.
2. Let your children know where they can reach you and the other parent (if possible) at all times.
3. Allow your ex-partner to call your children often and don't complain when it is time for them to visit their other parent. This only makes children feel guilty for wanting to spend time with their mom or dad.
4. Don't give in to the temptation to avoid discipline. It is natural to think that your children won't want to be with you if you correct them for doing something wrong. But nothing could be further from the truth. They won't respect you if you don't discipline them.
5. Never use your children as a ‘news-service’ to find out what the ex-spouse is doing. Your children are not spies and should never be treated as such.
6. Try and keep the same rules in the two households, where possible. Bed times and other restrictions should be the same. Maintaining consistency helps children deal with the change much easier.
The first thing you need to remember is that you simply cannot do everything well. If you try, you will spread yourself so thin that even the things you're best at will have mediocre results. Do the best you can and don't worry about not being perfect.
Secondly, look for substitutes who will handle tasks that your partner used to perform - employ a gardener or a cook for instance. Don't try to do everything yourself.
Never enough by the end of the month
As a single-parent family you cannot maintain the same standard of living you once enjoyed as a complete family. You need to remember this from the outset. Although it will take some adjustment, you must fight the urge to make more debt to simply keep up your past lifestyle. Do not be manipulated by your children or feel guilty if they can't have everything that they used to. Buying them ‘stuff’ is not going to make them feel any better about the loss of their parent.
No-one knows your situation better than God. If you are faithful with your money, He will provide for you. Single-parent mothers are particularly vulnerable to the threat that they are not going to make it financially. It is very easy when you are stuck on the side of the road with a flat tyre, to think that having a man in your life again would make everything easier. The truth is that at this critical time in your life the One you should be depending on is the Lord.
Don't try and work out your problems with your own schemes and solutions. Pray about every unique situation and ask for God's wisdom with your finances. It won't be easy, but putting God first and spending wisely will ensure your financial success in the future.
All is not lost
Good parenting makes all the difference in the world. The adjusted children of responsible single parents are proving to do very well, and don't let anyone tell you differently. Just take it one day and one step at a time.
I leave you with the final words of Gary Richmond:
"Although you may ask all the right questions and memorise all the right answers, there is no magic formula for successful single parenting. And most assuredly, nothing can really help you deal with single parenthood's demands, hurts, obstacles and challenges unless you choose to be obedient to God's Word.
With all my heart, I appeal to you to wholeheartedly commit your past, your present and your future to the nail-scarred hands of the One who created you, died for you and lives to intercede for you. Without Him, you can do nothing. With Him all things are possible!"
Dressing like a believer
We often associate modesty with old grannies wearing their old-fashioned frocks, stockings and health shoes. But that isn’t what modesty really is. Modesty is a character trait that is demonstrated through our behaviour and dress. Modesty does not mean that Christian women (in particular) have to be unfashionable or frumpy. Standing out, by choosing not to conform to the world’s standards of immoral and overly sexual dress, gives Christian women the chance to shine and be different.
Although I am not an expert on fashion and style, I have compiled a few guidelines for young Christian girls to use. I believe these tips help me to set a modest and pure example in a world that is marked by short skirts, low cut tops and inappropriate clothing.
Approach fashion differently
I love layers. They are versatile, practical and trendy. Layering can be used either with tights (under shorter skirts and cropped shorts) or with tops (for example, a white T-shirt underneath a low cut coloured top). Layering allows girls to remain trendy, but also to cover up in the right places. At times we may see the perfect dress, but feel it is too short to be modest. This can be fixed if we wear pretty tights underneath the dress.
Find your personal style
I once read that a good way to be unique with your fashion style is to identify key elements that represent you. For example; a favourite colour (a few girls I know wear pink all the time!) or an emblem, like a cute cow. I love cows and I collect socks, shirts and prints that have cows on them. People tend to notice when I wear them, and associate it as my ‘style’. The benefit to having signature style, is that you can stand out in a crowd, without having to wear immodest, low cut, tight or see-through clothing. I want to honour God’s commands to dress modestly and to be wholesome, but that doesn’t mean I must be boring!
I know for a fact that guys prefer girls who dress modestly. Sure, they enjoy the view they get of the girls who show off their bodies, but they definitely do not respect them and wouldn’t consider a long-term relationship with that girl because they just aren’t the quality they’re looking for. I think they subconsciously realise that good looks never last. So while you may be jealously eyeing that model’s toned stomach and perfect legs, your guy loves you for your modesty, intelligence and great sense of humour! I’ve asked my male friends whether they prefer girls in skirts or jeans. Almost unanimously they all say girls look far better in skirts because it makes them look more feminine. I think women look their best when they embrace their femininity and beauty.
We can look at the trends and what’s in style, and pick out certain elements. Christians don’t need to be nerds. Not at all! But we do need to be classy, dignified and above reproach. Wear clothing that flatters you. It doesn’t have to be a shapeless sack, but barely-there t-shirts and really low-cut jeans with underwear flashing is really not attractive! Dressing in a tarty way, with too much make-up and too tight clothing, does not enhance our beauty. Instead, mini skirts and low cut tops demoralise us and make us vulnerable to abuse and misuse. Is that honestly what each of us want?
Allure and Mystery through Modesty
I read a book sometime ago called Secret Keeper by Dannah Gresh. The main thing I learnt from her was that we, as females, have a secret power. And that secret power or allure, is modesty. She says, “Modesty is the source of this delicate yet formidable power, making it a power in and of itself. It’s delicate because it can be so innocently given away without your even knowing it. It’s a formidable power, because once you have mastered modesty, no man will be given access to the full secrets behind your allure until you so desire.” Isn’t that amazing? The more we cover, the more enticing we are!
“In Genesis 2, God surveys His fine creation and finds everything just right. He uses the word ‘good’. The Gestalt theory teaches a graphic designer to control a viewer’s time by forcing the person to mentally complete a visual image. Because completing the incomplete intrigues the brain, it will always pause to finish an unfinished picture. What does a guy see when a girl walks by him wearing a long, tight skirt with a slit all the way up the sides? He sees past the fabric, because the slit invites him to finish the picture. This is simple visual science.”
Dannah continues, “How do you think this theory works when a girl wearing a tight T-shirt with her belly bared walks down the road past a guy? Yikes! Because he sees an incomplete picture of her body, he is compelled to complete it. The thrill not of what is seen, but is yet to be seen, is what actually tempts him. His imagination kicks in. It’s just how the brain works, especially for guys.”
Do not lead others into tempation
Fact: It is much more tempting for a guy to see a girl dressed in today’s skimpy fashion than it would be to see her naked. Does that astound you? It’s true. A Christian couple I know recently went to France for vacation. At one point this pair unwittingly stayed in a hotel next to the nude beach. The woman was concerned it would be tempting for her husband. It wasn’t. In fact, he was rather grossed out. There was nothing left to the imagination, which is the most tempting part of immodesty.
As Christian men and women, we have been called to a different standard to that of the world’s. God does not want us to lead others into temptation through our dress, speech or mannerisms. Although every woman (and girl) longs for attention and flattery, we need to set our focus on Christ. Only He will fulfil our emotional needs and make us feel truly beautiful and secure. Learn to embrace the biblical standards for modesty and appreciate that you can be attractive and sexy for your husband one day.
As Christian sisters, we must be mindful of our conduct. In church, be careful that your top is not see-through (eg: wearing a black bra under a white shirt) or that your pants are too low
(eg: your lacy underwear is peeping out while the boy behind you is trying to worship God). Ask your fellow girlfriends, disciplers and even your parents for guidance with your conduct. We can be friendly, without being flirtatious; pretty without being provocative; modest without being boring!
Although I am not an expert on fashion and style, I have compiled a few guidelines for young Christian girls to use. I believe these tips help me to set a modest and pure example in a world that is marked by short skirts, low cut tops and inappropriate clothing.
Approach fashion differently
I love layers. They are versatile, practical and trendy. Layering can be used either with tights (under shorter skirts and cropped shorts) or with tops (for example, a white T-shirt underneath a low cut coloured top). Layering allows girls to remain trendy, but also to cover up in the right places. At times we may see the perfect dress, but feel it is too short to be modest. This can be fixed if we wear pretty tights underneath the dress.
Find your personal style
I once read that a good way to be unique with your fashion style is to identify key elements that represent you. For example; a favourite colour (a few girls I know wear pink all the time!) or an emblem, like a cute cow. I love cows and I collect socks, shirts and prints that have cows on them. People tend to notice when I wear them, and associate it as my ‘style’. The benefit to having signature style, is that you can stand out in a crowd, without having to wear immodest, low cut, tight or see-through clothing. I want to honour God’s commands to dress modestly and to be wholesome, but that doesn’t mean I must be boring!
I know for a fact that guys prefer girls who dress modestly. Sure, they enjoy the view they get of the girls who show off their bodies, but they definitely do not respect them and wouldn’t consider a long-term relationship with that girl because they just aren’t the quality they’re looking for. I think they subconsciously realise that good looks never last. So while you may be jealously eyeing that model’s toned stomach and perfect legs, your guy loves you for your modesty, intelligence and great sense of humour! I’ve asked my male friends whether they prefer girls in skirts or jeans. Almost unanimously they all say girls look far better in skirts because it makes them look more feminine. I think women look their best when they embrace their femininity and beauty.
We can look at the trends and what’s in style, and pick out certain elements. Christians don’t need to be nerds. Not at all! But we do need to be classy, dignified and above reproach. Wear clothing that flatters you. It doesn’t have to be a shapeless sack, but barely-there t-shirts and really low-cut jeans with underwear flashing is really not attractive! Dressing in a tarty way, with too much make-up and too tight clothing, does not enhance our beauty. Instead, mini skirts and low cut tops demoralise us and make us vulnerable to abuse and misuse. Is that honestly what each of us want?
Allure and Mystery through Modesty
I read a book sometime ago called Secret Keeper by Dannah Gresh. The main thing I learnt from her was that we, as females, have a secret power. And that secret power or allure, is modesty. She says, “Modesty is the source of this delicate yet formidable power, making it a power in and of itself. It’s delicate because it can be so innocently given away without your even knowing it. It’s a formidable power, because once you have mastered modesty, no man will be given access to the full secrets behind your allure until you so desire.” Isn’t that amazing? The more we cover, the more enticing we are!
“In Genesis 2, God surveys His fine creation and finds everything just right. He uses the word ‘good’. The Gestalt theory teaches a graphic designer to control a viewer’s time by forcing the person to mentally complete a visual image. Because completing the incomplete intrigues the brain, it will always pause to finish an unfinished picture. What does a guy see when a girl walks by him wearing a long, tight skirt with a slit all the way up the sides? He sees past the fabric, because the slit invites him to finish the picture. This is simple visual science.”
Dannah continues, “How do you think this theory works when a girl wearing a tight T-shirt with her belly bared walks down the road past a guy? Yikes! Because he sees an incomplete picture of her body, he is compelled to complete it. The thrill not of what is seen, but is yet to be seen, is what actually tempts him. His imagination kicks in. It’s just how the brain works, especially for guys.”
Do not lead others into tempation
Fact: It is much more tempting for a guy to see a girl dressed in today’s skimpy fashion than it would be to see her naked. Does that astound you? It’s true. A Christian couple I know recently went to France for vacation. At one point this pair unwittingly stayed in a hotel next to the nude beach. The woman was concerned it would be tempting for her husband. It wasn’t. In fact, he was rather grossed out. There was nothing left to the imagination, which is the most tempting part of immodesty.
As Christian men and women, we have been called to a different standard to that of the world’s. God does not want us to lead others into temptation through our dress, speech or mannerisms. Although every woman (and girl) longs for attention and flattery, we need to set our focus on Christ. Only He will fulfil our emotional needs and make us feel truly beautiful and secure. Learn to embrace the biblical standards for modesty and appreciate that you can be attractive and sexy for your husband one day.
As Christian sisters, we must be mindful of our conduct. In church, be careful that your top is not see-through (eg: wearing a black bra under a white shirt) or that your pants are too low
(eg: your lacy underwear is peeping out while the boy behind you is trying to worship God). Ask your fellow girlfriends, disciplers and even your parents for guidance with your conduct. We can be friendly, without being flirtatious; pretty without being provocative; modest without being boring!
Influential Women - Part 3
A SINGLE WOMAN
The devil often lies to women by preying on our deepest fears – of inadequacy and inferiority. Sometimes we accept his lies as truths, looking to our weaknesses and circumstances as proof that we are unworthy to be chosen by God. Some women see their age, their singleness or their geographical location as disqualifiers for God’s plans.
Yet, these ‘defaults’ can actually be just what God requires for your specific, glorious destiny. Though not much is known about Phoebe, one thing is sure – she was a single woman who was very influential and helpful in the local church. Paul speaks highly of her as a “sister in Christ” (Romans 16:1-2) and commended Phoebe as a servant (diakonos) or deacon of the church at Cenchrea. Whether you are married or single, the Lord values you and has a role of influence for you.
A MOTHERLY WOMAN
Lois and Eunice are two family members credited with high praise from the Apostle Paul for amongst other things, their Godly examples, their legacy of faith and their superb upbringing of Timothy, a commendable young man of God. Lois and Eunice are perfect models of motherhood (and grandmotherhood!) – showing how important mothers are in shaping the lives of their children and indeed the generations. Often stay-at-home moms see their domestic duties as insignificant. They feel that Science projects and dirty socks pale in comparison to preaching the Word or working in the business world.
But God does not see their duties as superfluous. He values moms and grandmoms. As Lois’ and Eunice’s lives show – the investment you make in your family (no matter how irrelevant it may seem) can have eternal consequences in the Kingdom. Timothy’s life and the lives of all whom he impacted are credited to the faith of his mom and grandmom.
POSITIVE INFLUENCES
It must be noted that influence can be both negative and positive. Not only does the Bible document the righteous women of faith and their legacy, it also records the devastating consequences of destructive women like Jezebel and Delilah, who ruined people and enslaved nations. By succumbing to their flesh and following the path of destruction, these women yielded to the devil and will forever be considered women of deathly influence.
You as a woman of God have a choice – to influence others for good, to lead them astray or to abscond responsibility and do nothing. Choose wisely! Women are such a powerful gift to mankind, and we can learn much about God’s nature and His plan for women through the lives of various influential matriarchs in the Bible. From the Old Testament through to the New, God has provided us with examples of Godly women who, though from different backgrounds all had one thing in common - a love for God.
The devil often lies to women by preying on our deepest fears – of inadequacy and inferiority. Sometimes we accept his lies as truths, looking to our weaknesses and circumstances as proof that we are unworthy to be chosen by God. Some women see their age, their singleness or their geographical location as disqualifiers for God’s plans.
Yet, these ‘defaults’ can actually be just what God requires for your specific, glorious destiny. Though not much is known about Phoebe, one thing is sure – she was a single woman who was very influential and helpful in the local church. Paul speaks highly of her as a “sister in Christ” (Romans 16:1-2) and commended Phoebe as a servant (diakonos) or deacon of the church at Cenchrea. Whether you are married or single, the Lord values you and has a role of influence for you.
A MOTHERLY WOMAN
Lois and Eunice are two family members credited with high praise from the Apostle Paul for amongst other things, their Godly examples, their legacy of faith and their superb upbringing of Timothy, a commendable young man of God. Lois and Eunice are perfect models of motherhood (and grandmotherhood!) – showing how important mothers are in shaping the lives of their children and indeed the generations. Often stay-at-home moms see their domestic duties as insignificant. They feel that Science projects and dirty socks pale in comparison to preaching the Word or working in the business world.
But God does not see their duties as superfluous. He values moms and grandmoms. As Lois’ and Eunice’s lives show – the investment you make in your family (no matter how irrelevant it may seem) can have eternal consequences in the Kingdom. Timothy’s life and the lives of all whom he impacted are credited to the faith of his mom and grandmom.
POSITIVE INFLUENCES
It must be noted that influence can be both negative and positive. Not only does the Bible document the righteous women of faith and their legacy, it also records the devastating consequences of destructive women like Jezebel and Delilah, who ruined people and enslaved nations. By succumbing to their flesh and following the path of destruction, these women yielded to the devil and will forever be considered women of deathly influence.
You as a woman of God have a choice – to influence others for good, to lead them astray or to abscond responsibility and do nothing. Choose wisely! Women are such a powerful gift to mankind, and we can learn much about God’s nature and His plan for women through the lives of various influential matriarchs in the Bible. From the Old Testament through to the New, God has provided us with examples of Godly women who, though from different backgrounds all had one thing in common - a love for God.
Influential Women - Part 2
A COMPETENT WOMAN
Tabitha was not a mighty woman as far as we know, yet God chose to do a miracle in her life and raise her from the dead – causing the people of Joppa to marvel, rejoice in God and believe in His Name.
Through her acts of service like helping the poor, doing good and mending garments, Tabitha blessed the early Apostles and Christian community (Acts 9:36). It is interesting to note that when she died, Peter came and raised her from the dead, yet Stephen, an Apostle and powerful preacher who was martyred during a sermon, was not. God knows His reasons for doing certain things, but one thing is for sure – if we are willing to yield our time and talents to building God’s Kingdom and blessing our communities (as Tabitha did) our lives will leave an impact long after we pass away.
A PIONEERING WOMAN
Priscilla and her husband Aquila are often commended by Paul for being Godly leaders, missionaries, pioneers and competent business people. Through their tent-making business, they supported the work of Paul and helped fund the spread of the Gospel in Rome, Corinth and Ephesus. Priscilla was a talented businesswoman who was open to the Spirit of God and to change.
She was a pioneer who was prepared to move cities, sacrifice homes and comfort zones all in passionate pursuit of the Lord Jesus. As a woman who risked her life for others, we can learn much from her fearless example. (Acts 18,19)
A BUSINESS WOMAN
Lydia had everything money could buy. Her business inherited from her husband was flourishing and she was a respected citizen of the wealthy trading community of Thyatira in Philippi. Dressed in luxurious linens and draped in purple (the colour of royalty), Lydia had everything she desired – and yet she was thirsty for more. Her thirst was for the water of life that Jesus spoke about years earlier and upon hearing the Good News (preached by Paul) she immediately committed her life to the Lord.
Many people are entrapped by their possessions, and even Christians fall prey to the love of money, but not Lydia. She was a woman of noble sacrifice who was so touched by the love of God and the urgency of His Great Commission, that she dedicated her home, finances and worldly wealth to the church in Philippi. Lydia is a shining example of a career woman who “Seek first the Kingdom of God” (Matt 6:33). Career women should do the same – follow the Lord, support your husbands, serve the community and build the Church. (Acts 16:14-15)
TO BE CONTINUED
Tabitha was not a mighty woman as far as we know, yet God chose to do a miracle in her life and raise her from the dead – causing the people of Joppa to marvel, rejoice in God and believe in His Name.
Through her acts of service like helping the poor, doing good and mending garments, Tabitha blessed the early Apostles and Christian community (Acts 9:36). It is interesting to note that when she died, Peter came and raised her from the dead, yet Stephen, an Apostle and powerful preacher who was martyred during a sermon, was not. God knows His reasons for doing certain things, but one thing is for sure – if we are willing to yield our time and talents to building God’s Kingdom and blessing our communities (as Tabitha did) our lives will leave an impact long after we pass away.
A PIONEERING WOMAN
Priscilla and her husband Aquila are often commended by Paul for being Godly leaders, missionaries, pioneers and competent business people. Through their tent-making business, they supported the work of Paul and helped fund the spread of the Gospel in Rome, Corinth and Ephesus. Priscilla was a talented businesswoman who was open to the Spirit of God and to change.
She was a pioneer who was prepared to move cities, sacrifice homes and comfort zones all in passionate pursuit of the Lord Jesus. As a woman who risked her life for others, we can learn much from her fearless example. (Acts 18,19)
A BUSINESS WOMAN
Lydia had everything money could buy. Her business inherited from her husband was flourishing and she was a respected citizen of the wealthy trading community of Thyatira in Philippi. Dressed in luxurious linens and draped in purple (the colour of royalty), Lydia had everything she desired – and yet she was thirsty for more. Her thirst was for the water of life that Jesus spoke about years earlier and upon hearing the Good News (preached by Paul) she immediately committed her life to the Lord.
Many people are entrapped by their possessions, and even Christians fall prey to the love of money, but not Lydia. She was a woman of noble sacrifice who was so touched by the love of God and the urgency of His Great Commission, that she dedicated her home, finances and worldly wealth to the church in Philippi. Lydia is a shining example of a career woman who “Seek first the Kingdom of God” (Matt 6:33). Career women should do the same – follow the Lord, support your husbands, serve the community and build the Church. (Acts 16:14-15)
TO BE CONTINUED
Influential Women - Part 1
Women are such a powerful gift to mankind, and we can learn much about God’s nature and His plan for women through the lives of various influential matriarchs in the Bible. From the Old Testament through to the New, God has provided us with examples of Godly women who, though from different backgrounds all had one thing in common - a love for God.
How many of us wish we could do something spectacular and courageous for God – something that would last and earn us a place in history? Yet we feel insignificant, inferior or even trapped in our circumstances. So many of us wish we were thinner, richer, funnier, more self-confident, better cooks or better gifted in the things of God.
Yet we do not realise that God has uniquely shaped and distinguished us for our personal destiny.
Here are a few examples of the types of Women:
AN OBEDIENT WOMAN
Though not in Chronological order, I will run through each specific woman and the characteristics she modelled that we as 21st century ladies can embrace today. Mary is a model example of an obedient woman who trusted God.
She was pure in spirit and bestowed with the incredible honour of being the vessel God used to bring Jesus to the world. Her unfailing trust in the plans of God (despite the impossibilities of the plan) teach us to lean on our Father. (Luke 1:38)
A DISCIPLING WOMAN
Hermia, the wife of Titus, was a key role player in the early church in Crete, as she was a Godly mother and wife who was responsible (by virtue of the example she set) in disciplining young and old female converts to Christianity. (Titus 2:3-5)
TO BE CONTINUED
How many of us wish we could do something spectacular and courageous for God – something that would last and earn us a place in history? Yet we feel insignificant, inferior or even trapped in our circumstances. So many of us wish we were thinner, richer, funnier, more self-confident, better cooks or better gifted in the things of God.
Yet we do not realise that God has uniquely shaped and distinguished us for our personal destiny.
Here are a few examples of the types of Women:
AN OBEDIENT WOMAN
Though not in Chronological order, I will run through each specific woman and the characteristics she modelled that we as 21st century ladies can embrace today. Mary is a model example of an obedient woman who trusted God.
She was pure in spirit and bestowed with the incredible honour of being the vessel God used to bring Jesus to the world. Her unfailing trust in the plans of God (despite the impossibilities of the plan) teach us to lean on our Father. (Luke 1:38)
A DISCIPLING WOMAN
Hermia, the wife of Titus, was a key role player in the early church in Crete, as she was a Godly mother and wife who was responsible (by virtue of the example she set) in disciplining young and old female converts to Christianity. (Titus 2:3-5)
TO BE CONTINUED
17 August 2009
Motherhood - My personal experience
In the above pic is myself and my beautiful baby daughter Meeka, born 19 April 2008.
I Thank God for having survived my addiction problems, so I can be a role model to her, There is not a day in my life that I do not struggle as a single parent.
There are days that I just feel like giving up but remain positive and draw strength from Jesus Christ our Lord and Saviour.
Being a parent has many rewards I wouldn't trade motherhood for anything in the world, each and everyday is a new experience.
I Thank God for my blessings.
"Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, the fruit of the womb is a reward" (Psalm 127:3).
13 August 2009
Niece #2 - Baby Miah
My beautiful and healthy baby Niece Miah ,3 weeks old and already not camera shy, I thank God for her life and pray that she would grow up to be a powerful woman of God.
My Parents; My Role Models
Niell & Michelle Theron
For the past 26 years you've been there for me in every way possible: emotionally, mentally and physically. All my life, you've been my hero and your relationship with Me is equally inspiring.All my life, I watched how the two of you tackled problems. You always made it seem easy, You could be unhappy with a situation and still make the best of it. You could show love and respect in every action and every word.
I admire my parents for their undying Love and support and for being my lifeline through the good and bad times,And am Proud to be their daughter.
I Thank God each and every day for my parents and pray that God will bless them abundantly in each and every area of their Life.
I appreciate and value everything you do for me.
Love you Loads
12 August 2009
Theron Family
Here we have the My better known as the Theron family from left My sister (Alana), My Dad (Niell), My mom (Michelle), Me, My Niece(Jayden).
07 August 2009
RESPECT A WOMAN BECAUSE....
You can feel her INNOCENCE in the form of a daughter
You can feel her CARE in the form of a sister
You can feel her WARMTH in the form of a friend
You can feel her PASSION in the form of a beloved
You can feel her DEDICATION in the form of a wife
You can feel her DIVINITY in the form of a mother
You can feel her BLESSING in the form of a grandmother
Yet she is so TOUGH too...
Her heart is so TENDER...
So NAUGHTY...
So CHARMING...
So SHARING...
So MELODIUS...
She is a WOMAN
And she is life !!!
To all the wonderful women that I know, I hope you have a fantastic woman's month and woman's day on Sunday.Hope you won't forget how special you are!!!
You can feel her CARE in the form of a sister
You can feel her WARMTH in the form of a friend
You can feel her PASSION in the form of a beloved
You can feel her DEDICATION in the form of a wife
You can feel her DIVINITY in the form of a mother
You can feel her BLESSING in the form of a grandmother
Yet she is so TOUGH too...
Her heart is so TENDER...
So NAUGHTY...
So CHARMING...
So SHARING...
So MELODIUS...
She is a WOMAN
And she is life !!!
To all the wonderful women that I know, I hope you have a fantastic woman's month and woman's day on Sunday.Hope you won't forget how special you are!!!
06 August 2009
The Secret to Confidence
How do you act when unexpected circumstances arise? Are you confident or do you panic? Think on this scenario.
Your supervisor calls for you to come into his office. Immediately, your coworkers begin to remind you and warn you of the problems that are going on in the company. They tell you, “The corporate office is laying people off. Your job security is hanging in the balance.” Your fellow workers begin to make you think that you’d better be intimidated by your supervisor and afraid for your future. What should be your response? Do you panic?
God wants some people who are peculiar, who respond differently in life. A confident response is formulated from a Counselor who is from another world. Who is this counselor? Jesus stated, “But you know Him, for He lives in you and will be in you. I will not leave you as orphans, I will come to you” (John 14:17-18). This statement is one of the most amazing truths.
The Bible says that God will give us His own counselor – the Spirit of truth. He knows the truth about you. Jesus stated, “The Counselor, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, will teach you all things and remind you of everything I have said to you. Peace, I leave with you.” (John 14:26).
So relax. Don’t be ruffled. Have peace. If you are a citizen of the kingdom of God, you have the Holy Spirit. You may know that the light bill, water bill, and other bills are coming this week. Just relax. Why? You are a leader, and leaders don’t panic.
Leaders stop and think. They are rational. They have the mindset, “I’m coming out of my situation.” In their times of many adverse circumstances, leaders believe, “They that are with us are more than they that are against us” (2 Kings 16:6). Leaders think with the power of confidence because they are not alone.
Jesus instruction was, “Don’t let your heart be troubled. The Holy spirit will remind you of things He has taught you.”
One of the marks of leaders is that they are not afraid of anything. The Bible says if you follow God, you will not be afraid. Are you afraid this week?
If you are a citizen of His Kingdom, the same God that brought you through last week is waiting in next week for you. God is a God of leadership. Everything is going to be okay tomorrow. Tomorrow is already finished in God’s calendar. Be at peace for the Holy Spirit is going to train you how to think. If these thoughts are not true for you, you may want to adjust your life to align with the principles of the Kingdom of God.
Your supervisor calls for you to come into his office. Immediately, your coworkers begin to remind you and warn you of the problems that are going on in the company. They tell you, “The corporate office is laying people off. Your job security is hanging in the balance.” Your fellow workers begin to make you think that you’d better be intimidated by your supervisor and afraid for your future. What should be your response? Do you panic?
God wants some people who are peculiar, who respond differently in life. A confident response is formulated from a Counselor who is from another world. Who is this counselor? Jesus stated, “But you know Him, for He lives in you and will be in you. I will not leave you as orphans, I will come to you” (John 14:17-18). This statement is one of the most amazing truths.
The Bible says that God will give us His own counselor – the Spirit of truth. He knows the truth about you. Jesus stated, “The Counselor, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, will teach you all things and remind you of everything I have said to you. Peace, I leave with you.” (John 14:26).
So relax. Don’t be ruffled. Have peace. If you are a citizen of the kingdom of God, you have the Holy Spirit. You may know that the light bill, water bill, and other bills are coming this week. Just relax. Why? You are a leader, and leaders don’t panic.
Leaders stop and think. They are rational. They have the mindset, “I’m coming out of my situation.” In their times of many adverse circumstances, leaders believe, “They that are with us are more than they that are against us” (2 Kings 16:6). Leaders think with the power of confidence because they are not alone.
Jesus instruction was, “Don’t let your heart be troubled. The Holy spirit will remind you of things He has taught you.”
One of the marks of leaders is that they are not afraid of anything. The Bible says if you follow God, you will not be afraid. Are you afraid this week?
If you are a citizen of His Kingdom, the same God that brought you through last week is waiting in next week for you. God is a God of leadership. Everything is going to be okay tomorrow. Tomorrow is already finished in God’s calendar. Be at peace for the Holy Spirit is going to train you how to think. If these thoughts are not true for you, you may want to adjust your life to align with the principles of the Kingdom of God.
05 August 2009
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